Most of the questions that we recships are easily handled, categorized and answered.   One of the topics that we get asked about – with greater frequency than ever before – has to do with rebuilding Trust in a relationship.  This is a complex and heart-wrenching subject to say the least but it deserves attention nonetheless.  Maybe, because of its devastating impact on relationships, it should receive even more attention.

The subject of building trust in a relationship has naturally garnered great amounts of time on the part of both social scientists and experts in human science.  In our fast-moving, ‘instant-gratification’ world of today, it is possible to go – literally – from “Hello” to “I do” in a matter of weeks.  While getting into marriage or other committed duets is easier than ever, creating the bonds of trust and fidelity are much more difficult.   One of the key elements in a lasting relationship is the issue of Trust.  If you are on the mend regarding an effort to get your ex back you may want to take heed. While it certainly calls our attention to the corollary subject of Fidelity, Trust is much more than simply that. 

Trust is problematic for all of us.   What is more critical is the fact that it is what is known as a character-pedestal issue.  You either have it or you do not.  If you are known to be a cheater, your partner will likely never really trust you again.   A thorough understanding of these principles might, indeed, help to get ex back if you are trying to recover a broken-trust relationship.  Your chance to win your ex back, will be heightened by knowing all these things.

While harsh, these are true words.

Rebuilding trust suggests that it was previously there and subsequently lost or given away.  If you were granted tentative trust, which is what the experts refer to as that initial level of semi-trusted behavior, and subsequently lost it along with most of your partner’s respect, then you clearly have a challenge.

The experts agree that infidelity – the primary evidence of the lack of trustworthiness – is a reflection on one’s integrity as opposed to their sexuality and habits therein.  People without the life-management skills to control animal urges are rarely able to acquire them simply by admitting that they now ‘get it’.   If you are in the exception group here, then here is your assignment.

You rebuild Trust one event and one day at a time.  You will need the understanding and involvement of your partner along with professional help.   If you are attempting to get ex back from a breakup caused by the absence of these things, take heed.  It goes way beyond just hoping to ‘do better’ in the future.  It mandates a total qualitative overhaul of one’s psyche.  You will need time, your partner’s compliance and professional help.   Anything less and you are wasting your time.